Monthly Archives: May 2013

The gift of good taste

Food and friends, a perfect combination.  There are very few foods that I don’t enjoy.  I will freely admit that apricots would be at the bottom of my list.  My dad always called “tonsil-dusters,”  I love cooking, baking, tasting, savoring, restaurants, picnics….  When I recall a happy event, there nearly always is food associated with it in some way.   Now, many of my favorites taste bland.   I am thrilled when I find a favorite food that still has the same luscious taste that I remember.  I am grateful for all the delicious food I have ever eaten, and for the friends and family with whom I shared a meal.

Growing up in the Little Switzerland of Ohio, there is nothing like the taste of real Swiss cheese.  A grilled cheese sandwich made with real Swiss cheese, with all it’s stretchy deliciousness, makes me want to take tiny bites, so that I can make it last just a little longer.

A meal of mashed potatoes, noodles, creamed corn and pan-fried chicken.  I grew up surrounded by the Amish, and everyone ate this meal frequently.  My sister makes the best creamed corn I’ve ever tasted.  I loved Thanksgiving at her house.  My family always teased me because I would pile noodles on my mashed potatoes, top it with creamed corn, and maybe a little gravy.  Mix and eat!  Sometimes, I didn’t even heat it.  It tasted just as good cold.  Heavenly!

Coccia House pizza!!  A local pizza shop that makes amazing pizza.  When I left the area for about 25 years, I longed for their pizza.  It’s always so busy that you may have to wait for an hour or two to get your pizza, but none of the locals mind doing that.  It’s so much fun to go there for an evening with our family.

Fresh strawberries – Why does strawberry season pass so quickly?   When I was a little girl, there were always several times during strawberry season, when our entire meal would be a slice of angel food cake, topped with ice cream,  and a heaping scoop of strawberries.  A meal of dessert.  My mouth is watering thinking about it

Pickled beets and “red beet eggs” – I grew red beets in my first garden when I was about 5.  I’ve loved them ever since.  Each month, a group of about 10-12 of my cousins meets at a local restaurant for what we call “Cousin Lunch.”  The time together is filled with laughter and good food, including my favorite beets and pickled eggs!

Sweet corn roasted, in the husk, in a pile of hot coals.  I remember so many summer and fall evenings standing by the fire chomping on the most sweet, buttery, corn on the cob you can imagine.  The butter dish was usually covered with black pieces of burnt corn husk, but no one minded.

Morel mushrooms.  My mom and dad and I would go mushroom hunting every spring.  My favorite outing.  When my mom fried the mushrooms we found, their flavor was indescribably delicious.   It’s hard to find places to hunt mushrooms today, but I am so happy that I had so many years to do that.

I taught at a homeschool co-op for many years, and enjoyed every second of it.  At the end of each co-op day, many of the families would head to the local Schlotzky’s Deli to relax and chat and eat.  The food was great, the company was even better.  We would get to the deli at 3:30 and sometimes didn’t leave until they closed at 9:00.  I loved their potato bacon soup, until one of my students told me that he liked that soup, but he preferred to get half potato bacon and half chicken noodle in the same bowl.  I tried it and it became my new favorite.  Thanks, Jon!

We always had asparagus growing just outside the kitchen door.  My mom would ask me to cut some for dinner, but only  the stalks that were super skinny.  My mom said those were the only ones worth eating.   She was right.  And I’ve discovered that the super skinny ones I find in the grocery stores these days are lacking much of the flavor of the homegrown ones.  I’m so glad that I had the opportunity to enjoy the richness fresh from the earth.

I was always excited for the month of May to arrive.  My sister would call and invite my daughters and I to go to her “Mother-Daughter-Sister-Friend” banquet.  All the women and girls in our family would sit together.  The banquet was held in a large dining room in one of the local Amish restaurants.  The room buzzed with chatter and laughter.  Fresh, crispy salads at each place, family style main dishes passed from person to person, down the long table, and a basket of homemade bread.  The most exciting part of the meal was dessert.  A piece of pie was set at each place.  There were many different kinds, and everyone wanted to get their favorite, so there was a flurry of pie-trading that began before we even ate our salads.   Oh, how we loved that evening!

This list could go on and on.  My friends tease me that no matter what I’m eating, it’s my “favorite.”  And at that moment, it is.

So Very Grateful for Books!

1.  new/used books

2.  books on loan from the library

3.  the trillions of books I already own

4.  reading a new book and discovering a treasure

5.  authors that share their lives in autobiographies

6.  just the right book as a gift

7.  receiving a wonderful book

8.  extra time in a waiting room when I have a good book with me

9.  so appreciative for the marvelous bookmarks I have

10.  books are full of possibility and they make me feel possible, too!

Good List…

1. Being happy for a friend…

2. Learning to deal with sadness for another…

3. The healing power of touch

4. It’s okay to cry

5. Talking to Logan

6. Some of the words that kids find funny…and how they can make them fit into every Beatles song. :)

7. Thoughtful gifts

8. Sharing rhubarb with the neighbors

9. Prayer

10. Sharing gratitude

Hidden Gifts

Facing what lies ahead is far beyond difficult.  Not facing it is not an option.  Discovering the hidden gifts in the situation help me navigate the ever shifting path with more confidence, more courage and always, with hope.  I am grateful for these hidden gifts:

Three brothers – my beloved nephews, have been spending rare hours together, to gather pictures and memories for me.  They tell me how much fun they are having doing that.  They’re laughing, talking, reminiscing.  They say it’s great therapy.  And it would not have happened had my future not suddenly grown so dark.  That’s a powerful gift!

One of my favorite former students (and wonderful friend) moved to a distant state a few years ago.  Since I may not see her again,  I sent her a message to make sure she knew how she had touched my life.  She quickly replied with the perfect response.   An enriching, heart-overflowing moment.

Three young children who made my life so rich and full and fun, but with whom I had lost touch.  With a single email, I learned that they had been missing me, as I had been missing them.  It won’t be long until they will be visiting me.  That day will have hearts and fireworks and lots of smiley faces on my calendar.

Our family dinner together at our favorite restaurant was not what I had hoped.  It was the worst service and meal I’ve ever experienced.  I spoke up. Far more than I ever have, shocking my husband and daughters.  I have learned to set boundaries.  Family, conversation, connecting with those that I love is my most important work right now.  And I will do it with gusto!

An evening sitting with my 2 daughters and my husband.  Doing normal things together.  Holding hands, talking, laughing.  Bittersweet perfection.

Receiving an email from my North Carolina brother, telling me how he and his family felt that their trip to Ohio this past weekend was the greatest trip they had taken together.  The pinnacle of happiness appears in the midst of sorrow.  Thank you!

Enjoying frequent calls from my sister.  This seemingly unbearable tragedy is giving us opportunity after opportunity to love and support each other.  She has a special ring tone on my phone.  Every time I hear it, I smile.  “Well, hello there!!!”

I tell my husband that I want to memorize every inch of him so that I will always remember.  He takes my hand and slides it over one of his legs, and says, “You’re welcome!”  I go from tears to giggles in a nano-second.

There are so many people that I know want to reach out to me, but the whole situation is too big and dark and frightening.  I understand.  I hope and pray for courage for all of us.  If you are unable to find the words, or you are consumed by anger or sadness or paralyzed by fear. I understand and will still love you forever.

So eager for this week.  I will have visits from a number of my dearest friends, whom I seldom see.  It excites me more than I say.  There will be tears and giggles, love and laughter, chatter and hugs.  And if I was not facing the darkness, all these opportunities would never have appeared.

Hidden gifts fill me with hope

Healing things

  • Bob Ross painting, Mr Rodgers explaining, Ellen dancing.. these are my favorite therapists
  • A special one-on-one dinner with my stepsister.  She is so down to earth with a wonderful sense of humor.
  • Holding onto every feeling of my mom’s amazing hugs
  • The comforting sound of my mom and Dave talking quietly every morning before they start the day
  • A constant reminder of my mom I’ll carry forever, which includes our favorite inside joke
  • Lemony Snicket’s books. “A Series of Unfortunate Events” with great quotes like:“Unless you have been very, very lucky, you have undoubtedly experienced events in your life that have made you cry. So unless you have been very, very lucky, you know that a good, long session of weeping can often make you feel better, even if your circumstances have not changed one bit.”
  • Seeing my mom stand up for herself.. Go Ruth!
  • Laughter through everything
  • Silence to just be together
  • Accepting that nothing is okay in any way- but that is okay

Wishing you countless Ruth-like qualities.. and that’s a pretty awesome wish

Someone else’s shoes

  1. This very moment, where everything takes place
  2. I read a quote today, something like, if you remember it, it isn’t true. incredible how only ‘now’ matters
  3. A vase of blooming, fragrant peonies
  4. Rain on the roof, pittering on the wood dormer overhead
  5. Rearranged house feels fresh and light
  6. Aching in my heart is positive-sad, if that makes sense
  7. Feeling it fully instead of shying away from it
  8. Watching what miscellaneous, pointless things we do in our days that don’t mean anything in the long run
  9. Dropping one or two
  10. This

It’s always darkest before the dawn

Sadness feels suffocating. Breathing returns to normal as seemingly miraculous solutions appear to what seemed to be impossible situations.  I am so grateful for these friends, solutions and miracles!

A cherished family member who knows exactly what you are experiencing, because he has been there, and now he is here for me and for my family.

The kind, loving and generous spirit of my new sister, who has gone above and beyond to make it possible for me to focus on life and not on stress.   Infinite love!

The compassion, love, support and humor of my new daughter.  She moves so easily from one of us to another, lifting us up, making us laugh and keeping us sane.

The unconditional love, support, and acceptance of my husband.  Always kind, always reassuring, always patient, always tender, always gentle, always understanding and always ready to offer a wise-crack to make me laugh, even in the worst of situations.

Receiving a waterfall of caring text messages, phone calls, emails, and Facebook messages in one morning.

The lift from just a touch of make-up.

Making the most of insomnia by rising and writing lists, letters, ideas and notes, then sitting by our window to watch the glorious sunrise.

The gift of gas cards that will ease my daughter’s stress

Being together with my daughters and my husband for a favorite family meal.

A friend who is calm, cheerful, loving and generous.  Her gifts make me feel better, her laughter heals my heart, her easy, positive attitude help me focus on all the good,  And the waters she has provided made everything taste good.

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